COERCION AND PAIN
After much coercing, I managed to wrangle the address to my colleague's blogspot.
He went through a pretty awful break up recently. It's one thing to Know that something Awful has happened to someone, its another to read about in its rawest form. To know that even on the best of days, the excruciating pain of losing someone you have loved, is there in the back of your mind.
I admire his honesty, and his fragility, and his strength.
>>>
Personally, I'm just fed-up with life, and the glorious magnificent story that is called love.
A few points:
1. I blame the romance novels - particularly Mills & Boone, The Bachelor Duke
2. I blame stupid romantic movies - particularly French Kiss, While You Were Sleeping and Titanic ... yes I watched Titanic... three times)
3. I blame America and George bloody Bush - because at the end of the day, if you analyzed it in great detail, and statistically speaking, both America and George bloody Bush are to be blamed for almost every evil there is in the world, including but not limited to global warming, dying babies and hummers
... for the blatant false representation of this irritating nugget called love. Because of all this malicious spreading of disinformation we now believe that anything can be done in the name of love, that people will lay down their lives in the name of love, people will disown families in the name of love, people will spend hours and hours tagging along with you shopping telling you that you do not look fat in the name of love, people will make little tatoos of your name on their armpits in the name of love...
But its a LIE!!!
It's all a bloody LIE!!!
I'm telling you. It only happens in movies.
And so, I'm going to swear off Love and Men and run off to live the life of an ascetic, free of attachments to worldly objects (like Men). Footloose and fancy free, running around in orange togas with a very attractive short crew cut.
And I will do this, tomorrow.
Or at least after I get my bonus.
Cheh
He went through a pretty awful break up recently. It's one thing to Know that something Awful has happened to someone, its another to read about in its rawest form. To know that even on the best of days, the excruciating pain of losing someone you have loved, is there in the back of your mind.
I admire his honesty, and his fragility, and his strength.
>>>
Personally, I'm just fed-up with life, and the glorious magnificent story that is called love.
A few points:
1. I blame the romance novels - particularly Mills & Boone, The Bachelor Duke
2. I blame stupid romantic movies - particularly French Kiss, While You Were Sleeping and Titanic ... yes I watched Titanic... three times)
3. I blame America and George bloody Bush - because at the end of the day, if you analyzed it in great detail, and statistically speaking, both America and George bloody Bush are to be blamed for almost every evil there is in the world, including but not limited to global warming, dying babies and hummers
... for the blatant false representation of this irritating nugget called love. Because of all this malicious spreading of disinformation we now believe that anything can be done in the name of love, that people will lay down their lives in the name of love, people will disown families in the name of love, people will spend hours and hours tagging along with you shopping telling you that you do not look fat in the name of love, people will make little tatoos of your name on their armpits in the name of love...
But its a LIE!!!
It's all a bloody LIE!!!
I'm telling you. It only happens in movies.
And so, I'm going to swear off Love and Men and run off to live the life of an ascetic, free of attachments to worldly objects (like Men). Footloose and fancy free, running around in orange togas with a very attractive short crew cut.
And I will do this, tomorrow.
Or at least after I get my bonus.
Cheh
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Sing your heart out to this!! haha
Got burned but will do it again anytime :)
Love Hurts - Nazareth
Love hurts
love scares
love wounds and mares any heart
Not tough nor strong enough to take a lot of pain
Take a lot of pain
love is like a cloud
holds a lot of rain.
Love hurts
love hurts
I'm young I know but even so
I know a thing or two I've learned from you
I've really learned a lot
really learned a lot.
Love is like a stove
burns you when it's hot.
Love hurts
love hurts
some fools rave of happiness
Blissfulness
togetherness
some fools fool themselves
I guess
But they're not fooling me I know it isn't true
No
it isn't ture. Love is just a lie made to make you blue.
Love hurts
love hurts.
Love hurts
love scares
love wounds and mares any heart
. . .
I hate to say that the way this Malaysia country is moving, it will become another Argentina or Venezuela. There will be a very clear class distinction of the rich and poor, of well educated and not so well educated.
Argentina used to be the top 10 nations in the early 20th centuries. Their elitist government focuses only on higher education and neglected the lower level education.
Whereas Japan, Korea and Taiwan came out from the bottom by emphasising education from ground up.
While Malaysia we are arguing how to set the quota for bumis and non-bumis in our higher institution, our kids at primary and secondary are rotting away providing poor intake to the tertiary level.
There are various ways of helping the malays. The present approaches which have been used since 1970s have proven to be dysfunctional and wasteful.
Public funds, most of which have been contributed by taxpayers, mainly by Chinese businesses and individuals, should therefore not be used without re-thinking about the approach. I recommend a more performance-based or incentive type system.
How about self-help? The malays must learn to stand on their own feet, the sooner the better. Why not use that Singapore which allows the community to develop itself with matching financial help from the Government?
In this way, malay dignity and self-esteem can be restored. Over-dependence on a government has actually weakened the malays.
Those in the majority should take into consideration the interests of the minority for a harmonious atmosphere to prevail.
I believe the majority of the malays in this country is also embarrassed by the current situation and wish to put in place some remedies for the aggrieved minority.
This would work towards a truly harmonious multi-cultural, multi-racial and multi-religious Malaysian community.
Actually, the average number of Malaysians who get into Harvard for undergrad studies per year is 1.
It is quite easy to increase the number of Malaysians entering Harvard - ask one of our brilliant ministers to wield his keris in front of Harvard, demanding at least 100 students to be accepted into Harvard each year���.
Just my 2 cents���.Hahaha���.let's hope for a better education in Malaysia���.
Well, there was Professor KS Jomo who attended Harvard for his MBA (prior to that he was at Yale). He came back to teach���.but look what happened to him���.
We hope for less intervention from government in tertiary education, less oppression on Chinese schools in Malaysia���.[Hisham: "Nah, dream on!"]
Was joking actually on the keris wielding thingy���.these people can't even take up an assistant post if they are not in the government���.ok, I know I am exaggerating���.
Ancient Chinese wisdom says that officials have two mouths. This is still true today.
It always surprise me that by the behaviour of politicians. It irks even more that people think that the link is between the behaviour of our politicians and our children.
The problem begins first and foremost with policy. At the gist of it is the un-meritocracy and politicisation of the educational system.
The effect of politicisation is unchecked because we do not have free speech in this country. At the core of issue are the hegemonic policies of the Umno.
The problem is that it is very hard to do and takes a lot of effort, which our small-minded leaders are not up to the challenge.
Political leaders are keep falling into vain traps to believe that they can change of students and young minds with their policies and power.
Fine during undergraduate years, it is rather obvious that there is little racial integration within the university. Why? Because the students know certain races have certain advantages on the others. Yet most of them do not voice out, lest they will be blacklisted.
Freedom is suppressed to the fullest extent.
The truth is that history has suggest that it is a vain attempt that only bring adverse result - in the long run the best way to educate and ensure good values in our children is to expose them to issues and debate them openly when it comes up.
Education systems are so different. Who is to judge what is worthy and what is not worthy? So, think smart, unless you have a deep pocket to support your education overseas.
To change all these, we need to change the current environment and government policies. Can we? Otherwise, we will continue to talk till the cow comes home.
The trouble with some ministers is that they dream instead of actually think. Almost all the ministers in Bolehland like to talk nonsense ever now and then, and this is one of the examples. Ignore him and move on.
To build, it takes a long time, sometimes generations. To destroy, it takes overnight.
The English language - the education system has been destroyed through the regime of Dr M, and it will take even longer time to regain back the former status.
It is really a micros of the NEP policy. As the elite take more and more resources to put up a cosmetic appearance of progress and development, and hence denying effort, resources as well as sending the wrong signal to the average what they need to do who are lulled into complacency and lack of competitiveness.
University Malaya is churning out a lot of bumi graduates majoring in religious studies, moral studies, Islamic studies etc. These graduates are then given posts in GLCs.
Like the executive for MAS, an anthropology graduate, and like 90% of all executives in GLCs. No wonder all of them are making losses every year.
The government would do well to ensure standards are kept high as otherwise it is the public that suffers.
It is sad that many people will not go and see doctors (or other professionals) who graduate from local universities, as there are fears that these doctors are incompetent. Some of these doctors won't even touch you to give you a thorough examination. It is a fact.
The politicians and those who could afford are not sending their children to local universities but overseas universities. That tells us what it is about.
At the moment, it seems there are gross lack of planning, effective leadership and management, effective implementation and enforcement, and continuous assessment of the objectives against actual results from time to time.
In this globalised world, capital is truly democratic and will go where it finds the best returns. Malaysia is not a place that you can get good returns at the moment, be it in starting a business, putting into the bank, or investing in stocks or properties.
We've lots of engineers graduated from worldwide universities, why can't we come up with a viable solution? Why am I being labeled as lazy bunch of government servant?
When the real lazy people are the administrator of this country who doesn't spend their time listening to the working people of government agency���.why?
What does the CEO of GLCs do, they spent taxpayers money to go overseas on a first class basis.
There is a break-down in communication between the government leaders and the working people in the government or GLCs, the leaders thought everything was ok because most of the CEOs lies in their reports, they will only tell good thing about the business although they are loosing money, the CEOs won't give a damn because they will be out of the company or retirement in 2/3 years���.and they will not be punished for their mistakes.
Make your journey to any GLCs, 2 weeks before official visit by the prime minister, you will see building, flowers, people, roads, toilets, and trees undergoing major makeover at a very high cost due to the last minute preparation. So, how can they make money?
My only concern are the real workers, who really want have better future for the country. Don't blame them, blame the big-shot���.
The mistakes of privatisation during the Mahathir era, where his cronies managed to strip the plum assets of this country, should not be repeated. We should not play into their hands.
I gave up on the Malaysia mainstream media in 1998. I only buy newspapers because my job requires me to filter through the crap and find some useful embedded info.
Being trained overseas, I have seen some really drastic stuff printed on the front page of politically linked newspapers that can cause members of parliament to resign in an instant.
They bring down big irresponsible corporations. They run expose of environmental destruction. They are a force of a change.
The media in Malaysia is not in favor of the government but rather have their balls in the government hand.
What about the stand of media organisations? Has any newspaper come out to decry these problems insinuated by a rotten system?
Malaysians that have access to the Internet most likely don't read the daily newspapers, except for the few that read 'The Star' for the national headlines.
The mainstream media is getting more and more misleading nowadays, trying to brainwash the public; not like they have not been doing it forever.
Trying to divert people attention on the government in mess, they try to target the public instead, reporting on neutral issues rather than socio-political ones.
They pretty much have no options but be a little tilted to the government and promotes government agendas with very little criticizing���.but then we have Malaysiakini and all the bloggers for that anyways���.
Malaysiakini has been an arena for publishing politically explosive articles. I support them for having the courage to do so. Only with a free press will our people be more educated, and our politicians more accountable for their actions.
Time and again, Pak Lah despite his rhetoric, has proven that he does not make decision base on issues, ideals and goals but rather that his decision are based on what is practical for him to do.
He has proven himself to be a man that do not have to courage to make great change nor he has proven himself to have a systematic plan to implement his plans.
Everything he does is tempered by opportunities and practicality.
This is a perfect example where the Pak Lah seems to think he cannot afford to be seen pressured by both side of reformist, and those greedy within the party that wants change.
This is the PM, he is more cosmetic than real so in effect, all is lost already.
If the PM is a surgeon and I am the patient, I think I would be long gone by now, just because he has to wait for inspiration before he can, while in the meantime, I am bleeding to death or a malignant cancer continues to ravage the body.
The nation is sick with cancer tumors all over and a decision has to be made, and it has to be made now to operate. This is not like composing a symphony where you need to have inspiration before you can start to write the first bar.
No matter how Pak Lah reshuffle his cabinet, there is a certain inevitability that the same deadwood ministers and the same faces of corrupt ministers, who have been there for umpteen ages will still continue to hold office.
It takes a strong prime minister to discard his personal interest and political ties to dismantle the old, corrupt regime and start afresh. As I said, it takes a great man to institute such a mammoth change, a monumental change that will plot and shape the destiny of Malaysia.
Here are some facts on public transport. Hong Kong with a population of six million on a tiny island has a good efficient public transport system. So too has Singapore.
In KL we only talk of a 1.3 million population spread out between a huge area of KL and Petaling Jaya.
So why is our government not doing this? Because of self-conflicting government policies.
1. The privatisation of highway projects which are all in the hands of cronies and;
2. The National Automotive Policy (NAP) which forces us to buy expensive cars due to our inefficient public transport system.
Let's not forget the lucrative toll collection and the selling of the Smart tags, the latter of which is in the hands of yet another crony.
The Malaysian government is not stupid, if not how could it have built the world class Twin Towers. Yet why does it not have the expertise to build a world class public transport system? It is all because of the reasons stated above.
We don't have to spend millions of ringgit, we just need to implement the measures. They have been proven in Taiwan, China and many other countries. And don't tell me Malaysia doesn't have the talent to manage an efficient bus system.
If we think hard, we can come up with our very own Malaysian way of solving our transport problem.
If after all the headhunts, a suitable candidate still can't be found, then sack the current transport minister and appoint me!
I don't believe the Barisan Nasional government understands the real and present danger the country is heading towards. It is appropriate that we look at the reality of the situation at the beginning of 2006.
Corruption and graft in Malaysia have been allowed to fester for far too long and is killing the country slowly.
With the world opening up and globalisation inevitably at the doorsteps, smaller economies like ours will suffer. Unless Malaysia's industries innovate and metamorphic, we will lose out to the great factory of the world - China.
All the more so when the government tolerates corruption and graft in its awarding of contracts, and when contracts are awarded not to the best company but to relatives and friends who can provide a kickback.
We are no longer competitive. The cost of doing business in Malaysia is now much too high. Corruption and graft certainly does not help but the inflation rate has risen to a point that it is virtually impossible to raise a family���.
It used to be that Malaysia could at least boast of a well-educated workforce however today, it is sadly no longer true.
I run a local business and conduct perhaps over a hundred interviews a year of graduates in Malaysia. It is sad that our local graduates lack the confidence and social skills to make it pass the first round of interviews. Perhaps if they were not so obsessed with scoring As but more appreciative of the many and varied aspects of life and general knowledge, they would be more confident in carrying on a normal conversation.
Our place of higher education is sadly no longer what it used to be. If the politicians and the ministers of higher education continue to be in a state of denial of the standard and level of our local universities, then it is to the detriment of the nation.
While Malaysia, or the government rather, continue to play the racial card by insisting that there is a malay agenda and the Indian community fights for a voice and the Chinese component believes that there is a Chinese agenda, the rest of the civilised world are working towards being more united for the simple sake of commerce and economics.
It should no longer be necessary to divide the poor up into Malays, Indians or Chinese, nor is it necessary to divide the wealthy according to their skin color. Certain biasness exist and stereotypes are unavoidable, but government policies that promote racial division is in this day and age unnecessary.
In fact it makes the country more divided and less competitive. Just go to America and look at the number of Malaysians who head business organisations and hospitals and universities. These are the brains that we lost, not because of the pull factor but more so because of the push factor.
My travels take me to all over Asia. I see for myself what used to be Malaysia's strength have now become our weakness. Some of our neighbours have become very serious with corruption and graft.
China, for example, recognised their weakness and is seriously dealing with the problem. There was a local government official in an outlying province who were misappropriating the people's funds. He was found guilty and he was shot by a firing squad.
I believe we will have few or no politicians left if the Anti-Corruption were free to run its investigations independently. Perhaps that is one way of trimming the cabinet.
No matter how weak and ineffective Pak Lah is?
No matter how unemployable our local graduates are?
No matter how many billions the nation loses in its many economic ventures?
No matter how low the quality of our education?
No matter how ineffective the civil service is?
No matter how incompetent the CEOs of GLCs are?
No matter how corrupted the nation is?
No matter how brutal the police force is?
The people will continue to support the Barisan Nasional.
Take my word, the BN will be returned again with a two-thirds majority in the next general elections.
The reason is simple. With the election commission being a de facto member of the BN, and the widespread vote rigging, there is no way the BN can lose.
It has been impressed upon the people that the nation will be destroyed if the BN falls - malays will be wiped out from the surface of the earth.
The people are not so bothered about human rights, about good governance and transparency, about corruption.
They don't evaluate the prime minister performance. All that matters for the malays, is a party that will protect their special rights.
For the Indians, there is no choice but they follow the majority.
For the Chinese, they want to be left in peace to live and make money.
The government can rule with impunity and yet remain strong. What a dichotomy?
It was initially assumed that the victim in the ear-squat case was a Chinese national, prompting a protest from the China government. Imagine being lectured by, of all people, the China on how to treat prisoners and respect basic human rights!
How low can we go?
What we see today is the struggle for the spoils of office. While corruption is rife, no one is willing to do anything about it. Why rock the boat?
Since you can't fight corruption you might as well join in - that way you get to share the spoils of office, and create a small empire even for the siblings in business while the sun shines.
This culture of corruption has taken decades to take roots. Change will not come easy.
The race card will continue to be played. Why not? It is a damn good tool to use during times of disunity and apparent chaos. How else would you unite the malays?
The educated and politically inactive among the malays need to wake up - and do something, rather than wait for a (financial) crisis of the proportion we saw in the late 1990s, we are experiencing a leadership crisis today - make no mistake about it.
Pak Lah is asleep at the wheels.
I don't even trust my own country prime minister anymore���.he is a disappointment to me���.
Pak Lah if you read this I will tell you straight to your face "I don't support you anymore!"
In Malaysia it is all about race and religion. Other than the old South Africa, I think Malaysia is the only country that officially practice racial discrimination.
There are very few countries (if any) in the world where government promotes affirmative action for the majority.
Look at the NEP, the housing discount for malays, the number of malays in all government composition of political parties. How come nobody complain to United Nation?
This proves to the world that Bolehland is one country two standards. Pak Lah said he is fair to all citizens, and he is the prime minister for all Malaysians. Is he?
No wonder, our Malaysia country has become a laughing stock to the world. What kind of message is our country sending to the media?
We are almost coming to 50 years after independence - surely the country has matured sufficiently to accept that democracy, whatever its weaknesses, works best for all.
For a 48 years old person - Bolehland is an overgrown imbecile who is clearly a very spoilt brat. What more is that it has also started to exhibit symptoms of senility.
This is a great shame for someone who has never managed to grow up to an adult. Without reaching adulthood, it has directly become senile. If that is not the fault of the government ruling parties, one cannot think of any other reasons.
The worst thing is it happening under the nose of our prime minister who had so many times pledged and promised a fair and transparent administration.
Again one shameful decision by the authorities. Anyway, it is nothing new. In year 2020, it will still be the same. This 'senility' haven been spread out by the Umno-led government. And I don't see there is a cure even in the year 2020.
For heaven sake, Pak Lah, enough is enough, has the courage to remove his cabinet ministers before he make a vast mockery of our country.
As a post-independence-born Malaysian, I would like to offer my thoughts on Article 153 of the federal constitution which mentions the special position of the malays. Please note that there is no mention of the words 'special rights' or 'special privileges' in the constitution.
For too long, there has been a lack of understanding of what our forefathers had in mind when they included this clause in our much talked about social contract. To gain a better understanding, let us take a trip back in time to 1957 to actually visualise the scene then.
In a scenario where the immigrant Chinese and Indians were seeking citizenship rights in Malaysia, it is reasonable to presume that they would have had to understand and acknowledge the difficulties faced by the majority malays.
And this is where the meaning of the words 'special position' comes into focus. What did our forefathers mean by the special position of the malays? Did they mean that the malays would enjoy a higher status than all the other races? Did they mean that the malays would have special rights and privileges in perpetuity?
If this is what our forefathers had intended, then our constitution would have mentioned this specifically. However, the constitution or social contract does not say so.
What then, could the words 'special position' mean? It is reasonable to infer that our forefathers were concerned first by the fact that the malays were left behind economically despite being the indigenous majority in the country.
Secondly, they were concerned by the fact that, despite being immigrants, the Chinese and a small segment of the Indian community were relatively much better off.
The clause was therefore more so of an acknowledgment by the non-malays of the disadvantageous economic situation of the malays. The consideration given by the former to the latter when entering into the social contract for citizenship rights was to agree to provide some measure of support for the malays to improve their economic standing.
If our forefathers had meant for these preferences to last in perpetuity, then there would not have been a request for a review in 15 years.
When I see the compulsory requirement for non-malay companies to hand over a certain portion of their equity to the malays for no input at all, I am tempted to ask: Is this what our forefathers had in mind? I can go on listing the abuses forever because there are plenty of them.
It is intriguing to hear senior BN and Umno leaders repeatedly asking the people to adhere to the social contract. What contract they are referring to? It cannot be the federal constitution. It is most probably some contract that they have entered into unilaterally without the agreement of the non-malays.
So it seems to be incorrect to firstly equate the words 'special position' with 'special rights and privileges'. Secondly, it also seems incorrect to suggest that the malays have special rights and privileges in perpetuity and, therefore, that they have a higher status than everyone else.
The non-malays only agreed to allow them preferences over the others for a finite period of time. It has now been almost 50 years since independent but has such a meaningful review of those preferences taken place at all? Absolutely not.
In fact what has happened is that successive BN governments, dominated by Umno, and especially after the 1969 tragedy, have taken the liberty to very liberally interpret Article 153. This has led to the wholesale abuse of the consideration provided by the non-malays in 1957 for their citizenship rights.
It seems to me that the real social contract of 1957 was torn up long ago by the BN government with the way in which the NEP was implemented from the 1970s onwards.
To me, the real social contract of 1957 has long been dead. I hope the day will come when the people of Malaysia in the true independent spirit will make it live again.
Then perhaps, we would not have to spend hundreds of millions of ringgit on nonsensical projects like the National Service to inculcate unity amongst the races.
The existing government of Malaysia, seriously hasn't an inkling what depths we, as a country has plunged in educational standards, from pre-school to tertiary levels.
Or maybe, the powers-that-be do in fact know, but are completely bankrupt of ideas on what must be done to climb back out of this bottomless hole, and what they are lip-preaching is just so that they will continue their jobs, and hand the reins of a near-death nation to the next unfortunate successor.
Don't waste your time and ours. As long as your administrators, students, and teaching staffs that are chosen based on colors and religions, and not based on merits and performances, there is no way they can even be in the top 100.
Just have a look at the qualifications of all your politicians as compared to those of Singapore. Even our prime minister has no credible qualification except being a crony of Mahathir.
What is the important of building university which is not recognised by neighbouring country, i.e. Singapore!
Talk is cheap. What are the ministers strategies to make our world class universities? If you admit mediocre malay students to fill quotas, insist on having a malays as the vice chancellor (VC) and promote lecturers based on skin color rather than ability, there is no way we can move even one notch up the ranking ladder.
For a change, put a Chinese or an Indian as the VC, that is if the minister is sincere in bringing about change, I am sure there will be progress. Most importantly, bar Umno politicians from interfering in university affairs.
This is a gigantic asking. Just dream on, man���.Pray more, you may get money but not world class universities!
All talk only but in reality can't achieve. It needs patient and understanding on the education systems. The proper guideline and implementations. Not easy to do. Talk can. To do it cannot.
Sadly it seems to be that the best education system Malaysia has ever had was under the British time. Since then it has gone downhill until where it is today. Malaysia is not famous for raising standards, but for lowering standards incessantly. Now 15 A1s is nothing but rote learning bookworm.
What else have we got to lose? We are almost at the bottom and dropping, and the only way to go is up. If you have children planning university education, start looking elsewhere.
Save money if we have and send our children overseas, just like Mahathir and all our ministers have done for their children.
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